J.Lo: I’ve been mentally, emotionally and verbally abused

Was abuse the reason Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony called it quits in 2011?

In a short excerpt (via People) from her forthcoming memoir, “True Love,” Lopez, 45, recalls the day she revealed her marriage was over and the thoughts about relationships that followed.

The singer was on the set of a photo shoot in July 2011. Things on the outside seemed to be picture perfect for Lopez: She had recently celebrated her seventh wedding anniversary (June 5), her twins Max and Emme were doing well and her newest single, “On the Floor,” had soared to number one around the world. But on the inside, Lopez was struggling with her relationship.

“In a blur of fear and panic, I looked at Benny [Medina] and my mother and blurted out the words: ‘I don’t think I can be with Marc anymore.’ Then I burst into tears,” Lopez writes. “It was out. The thing I feared more than anything in the world. I collapsed into their arms and began to sob.”

Lopez and Anthony publicly announced their divorce on July 15, 2011. “Hardest. Day. Ever,” she dramatically sums up.

In the year that followed, Lopez launched her Dance Again tour, on which she wanted to show the “truth about abusive relationships.”

Lopez never says her seven-year marriage to Anthony was abusive, although she once called their relationship “very Sonny and Cher,” and also opens up about abuse in her past.

“I’ve never gotten a black eye or a busted lip, but I’ve been in relationships where I have felt abused in way or another: mentally, emotionally, verbally,” she writes. “I know what it feels like for your soul to be diminished by the way your loved one is treating you.”

The “Booty” singer’s list of exes include Diddy, Casper Smart, three ex-husbands Ojani Noa, Chris Judd and Anthony and a highly publicized engagement to Ben Affleck.

Lopez says it took her years to learn that abusive relationships fall on the shoulders of both partners. “Because every day that you don’t walk out that door, every day you accept things in your partner and in yourself, is a day that you’re saying it’s okay,” she writes.

“True Love” is released on Nov. 4.